Heavy Post

On the eve of my birthday, I received the news of which I had been dreadful of and also prepared myself some time back.

For those who know me close enough, you would had already know what really happen.

Yes my dad has already pass on. When I arrived at NCID, he had already left the world but in a peaceful manner. There is no sign of struggle. To think positively, it was a relief for him actually. It wasn't easy for him at his old age, to have suffer from breathing difficulties, chest discomfort etc.

I don't dare to say I am very good daughter as the time I spent with him was not so much compared to my sisters. Due to own's covid infection, husband recovering period from hospital discharge. But my love for him is not any lesser.

Is very hard for me to accept the fact that he is already gone on the first day. The only time finally make me accept this moment of truth was the moment he was being push for cremation and also his bone ashes. His bone ashes has some light pink spot which according to the mandai cremation and columbarium staff that such cases means this person while alive did many good deeds on thus he went to heaven.

It was a relief for me that he went somewhere peacefully. 

During the wake, there is many custom to follow, like prayer items, no. of days to pray for him etc. But also at the wake, I saw some ugly side of relatives.

Example, 1 relative from my mum side open the food of the food catered at the wake. It was quite rude of her and I was wondering she came here for the wake or food? This same relative enforcedly took my dad favourite wine collection and the so call wife aka my mum did not stop this.

Speaking of my mum, she is terrible. She still can laugh while chit chatting with relatives. Really heartless! I till date I still don't understand what does my dad see in her? Talk so loud and call my husband name so loud to inform that my in laws are at the wake. During cremation she did not follow us also. 

Still say many bad things like make the toilet wet when my husband and I went back every time, did not treat her supper, treat my mother in law better than her,  dad's brother wife asked her why I did not have children, she can simply reply none of her business. Her here means herself, not the uncle's wife.  

Well well well, let me clarify her accusation one by one. Truth is in blue color. 

1. make the toilet wet when my husband and I went back every time - She was the one who make the toilet floor so wet. I ever warned her not to do so as my dad can fall down. 

2. did not treat her supper - I remember very clearly that one year I brought her a mother's day cake, she did not even take a single look end up is I finished it all by myself. 2nd, during of the CNY, my dad wanted to dine in at the hao wei kitchen(located at tpy central), my husband pay for the dinner treat. Wow, she eat already, pass out motion and forget. So ungrateful!

3. treat my mother in law better than her - on my mother in law, I feel what is truely call mother's love, She show concern whenever I have mouth allergy issue and she mentioned I lose weight in my arms after I recovered from covid. Compared to her, did my own mother notice this? of course I have to treat my mil better as I am Married to my husband!

4. dad's brother wife asked her why I did not have children, she can simply reply none of her business. - not wrong also, cuz is my own business. But anything happen to her also not my business. I will never forget the day when she can just totally ignore my dad injury when he fall off from his motorcycle. Is lucky my dad got the strength to call me and I was nearby(that time I not yet married, still staying with them). And guess what the hell she was doing, she was cleaning their masterbedroom window. Is this how a wife behave?

Is a joke when she don't even respect and treat people around her with proper manner, yet expect people to treat her like a queen. Every time always chase us back to our own home when we come back just for a while. If she don't like us holding her up, than don't give birth to any of us back than. 

I don't know when the god going to take her off for her well deserved punishment. But she better know her limits and stop her nonsense.